Thanksgiving is just a few weeks away. Choosing the fixings for you Thanksgiving dinner is done with care, for tradition (Gramma’s apple pie) and today’s preferences (no one eats cranberry relish). Regardless what will or will not be on your table everyone wants good food, good fun, quality family time, a little of the old traditions and maybe a new one or two.
This reminds me of the wedding rhyme for the bride,
Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue, and a sixpence in your shoe.
Thinking about this rhyme and Thanksgiving inspired a new tradition, maybe something you want to try.
A Something Old Something New Thanksgiving
Set the table with a platter or serving dish from each matriarch represented. If you don’t have a specific item, improvise – no one will really care if you say this was gramma’s tray or this tray reminds me of gramma. Obviously the more you know and can share the better. Last Christmas I was given a crystal bowl from my great-grandmother. I know it was hers but I don’t know much more. So I am going to investigate between now and Thanksgiving, call my Aunt, go to Ancestry.com, and maybe even look up their marriage certificate through the courts. If we don’t take the time to share the story of our family heritage – good, great, or horrible – it will die away and never be remembered.
Try something new, a new recipe, a new board game, a new way for everyone to share what they are thankful for. We have done many things over the years from just going around the table saying what you are thankful for to having leaves that everyone would write things on and put them on the table as decoration. When the kids were young I had them draw their hands making the thumb the turkey head and the fingers the tail feathers and on each feather they wrote something they were thankful for. For my family I am going to have them say one new thing they tried this last year and one thing they want to try this year before next Thanksgiving.
Borrow from a relative, friend, or neighbor an item to represent each patriarch. While I am researching or asking about the matriarch, I will automatically get some information about her spouse. If you need information and have names and addresses, check Facebook you will find people of all ages on Facebook. Learn a little family history and share it with your family. If your relatives are all gone think of something you heard about them and do a little research. My father died in 2002 but I know what city he was born in and what school he attended, so I can start there.
In an obvious place within your table decorations add something blue, I have a cloth napkin that is blue that I will use in my gramma’s crystal bowl with the bread. Blue is a cool color known to bring a sense of peace and calm. It is also the color of the sky and the clear ocean. It’s also related to the Grace of God. Putting the blue out as a contrast to the traditional earthy browns, orange, and yellow it should stand out. When asked about the blue it will give opportunity to share about God.
2 things to share about God
- As a Christian, God is with me wherever I go and my goal is to be different form the crowd not in a bad way but as a light – like the sun on a clear summer day, I live in the Son even when life is stormy and grey.
- Even though I’m here in the world I’m set apart from the world, like the blue from the brown and orange. As His Child and I have a job to do to follow His command to Love Others.
Sixpence in your shoe;
For each person glue a penny to a piece of card stock with a blessing on the front.
May the Lord bless you and keep you; May the Lord make His face shine on you and be gracious to you; May the Lord turn his face toward you and give you peace. (Number 6:24-26)
May the Spirit of the Lord fill you with wisdom, knowledge, and might
On the back a reminder,
From Ask Moses
“The best “prayer” for success is giving charity. By placing and using a charity box in your home and office you are transforming your finances from a mundane self-serving need to a partnership with G-d. And God likes to be successful.” Rabbi Shlomo Chein
Something Old Something New Thanksgiving: recap
- Something Old – Matriarch memories
- Something New – try something new, everyone share 1 thing they tried last year and 1 thing they want to try this year
- Something Borrowed – Patriarch memories
- Something Blue – Blue item on the table to remind us of God’s care for us and our responsibility to care for others
- Sixpence in your shoe – bless each person and reminder charity is partnering with God to care for others
© 2015 Elayne Cross