Questioning past decisions for positive results

As Christians we try to seek God’s direction when making major decision. We pray about finding a job, a spouse, a home, and a good church. Looking for direction with major decisions is wise, getting that direction from God, and Godly counsels is wisdom. Sometimes it still seems like there is no clear direction to take. Sometimes even years later, I question past decisions.

questioning past decisions
Questioning past decisions can lead to doubt and fear, or it can lead to clarity and peace.

When I started college, I had an idea of what I wanted to do when I graduated. As a sophomore I decided that the requirements after graduation were not going to work well with my life situation. So I struggled to decide on a new major. I changed major, then changed it again, still I wasn’t settled with the decision. Each time I prayed seeking direction but never felt like I got a clear answer.

From my perspective this was a huge decision. What I would be doing would be important to God! Wasn’t it? I slowly realized a pull of the Holy Spirit to just decide knowing every place people are, Christians can make a difference. I chose science education as my major and had some peace. I realized no matter what career I had, I should take Christ with me. Even into the public school.

Questioning Past Decisions

Here I am a few years later and I’m not working as a science teacher. I wonder if I asked God the right questions? Was there a better major? Was I so focused on me and my life that I couldn’t think beyond the few choices I was considering? Had I boxed myself, and my choices, in?

Many times in life we look back and wonder these sorts of things. The human perspective wonders: what was, what could have been, and what I missed.

God doesn’t view our experiences, good or bad from the human perspective. Life here on earth is boot-camp for eternity. The questions I need to ask are

  • What did I learn through the process of getting my degree?
  • Am I closer to God now than I was then?
  • What or Who influenced me and drew me away from God?
  • In what way did God help me become more like Christ?
  • Am I able to use what I now know to help others along their journey?
  • Who influenced my life negatively – but pushed me to God?
  • Who influenced my life positively – and pushed me closer to God?

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your paths.

Fear and doubt about decisions you made yesterday only steal the precious time you have today.

Trust God’s plan for you. If He wants you somewhere He is capable of making it happen.

Questioning past decisions can lead to doubt and fear, or it can lead to clarity and peace.

I learned a lot just getting my degree.

The experiences I went through at that time have helped me.

  • I am closer to God
  • I have healthy interpersonal relationships
  • I have wisdom to share with those following behind
  • The negative events pushed me to God.
  • Some positive things tried to draw me away from God
  • I learned to recognize it when I was being pulled away from God
  • Positive people revealed to me God’s love and acceptance.

I’m not a science teacher in a public school but I got a great education.

Questioning past decisions taught me about God, and about myself.

Don’t look back and second guess the choices and decisions you made. Look back asking, how far have I come? Can I see God directing my path? Then ask God – What next?

Your turn. Are you willing to share a decision that didn’t turn out as you planned but God used it for something good? Looking back is beneficial when we do it through a heavenly perspective, I would love to hear about how God has directed your path.

© 2015 Elayne Cross


Something Old Something New Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving is just a few weeks away. Choosing the fixings for you Thanksgiving dinner is done with care, for tradition (Gramma’s apple pie) and today’s preferences (no one eats cranberry relish). Regardless what will or will not be on your table everyone wants good food, good fun, quality family time, a little of the old traditions and maybe a new one or two.

This reminds me of the wedding rhyme for the bride,

Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue, and a sixpence in your shoe.

Thinking about this rhyme and Thanksgiving inspired a new tradition, maybe something you want to try.

A Something Old Something New Thanksgiving

Something Old, Something New Thanksgiving
A Some-Kind of Thanksgiving! Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue, a sixpence in your shoe.

Something Old;

Set the table with a platter or serving dish from each matriarch represented. If you don’t have a specific item, improvise – no one will really care if you say this was gramma’s tray or this tray reminds me of gramma. Obviously the more you know and can share the better. Last Christmas I was given a crystal bowl from my great-grandmother. I know it was hers but I don’t know much more. So I am going to investigate between now and Thanksgiving, call my Aunt, go to, and maybe even look up their marriage certificate through the courts. If we don’t take the time to share the story of our family heritage – good, great, or horrible – it will die away and never be remembered.

Something New;

Try something new, a new recipe, a new board game, a new way for everyone to share what they are thankful for. We have done many things over the years from just going around the table saying what you are thankful for to having leaves that everyone would write things on and put them on the table as decoration. When the kids were young I had them draw their hands making the thumb the turkey head and the fingers the tail feathers and on each feather they wrote something they were thankful for. For my family I am going to have them say one new thing they tried this last year and one thing they want to try this year before next Thanksgiving.

Something Borrowed;

Borrow from a relative, friend, or neighbor an item to represent each patriarch. While I am researching or asking about the matriarch, I will automatically get some information about her spouse. If you need information and have names and addresses, check Facebook you will find people of all ages on Facebook. Learn a little family history and share it with your family. If your relatives are all gone think of something you heard about them and do a little research. My father died in 2002 but I know what city he was born in and what school he attended, so I can start there.

Something Blue;

In an obvious place within your table decorations add something blue, I have a cloth napkin that is blue that I will use in my gramma’s crystal bowl with the bread. Blue is a cool color known to bring a sense of peace and calm. It is also the color of the sky and the clear ocean. It’s also related to the Grace of God. Putting the blue out as a contrast to the traditional earthy browns, orange, and yellow it should stand out. When asked about the blue it will give opportunity to share about God.

2 things to share about God

  1. As a Christian, God is with me wherever I go and my goal is to be different form the crowd not in a bad way but as a light – like the sun on a clear summer day, I live in the Son even when life is stormy and grey.
  2. Even though I’m here in the world I’m set apart from the world, like the blue from the brown and orange. As His Child and I have a job to do to follow His command to Love Others.

Sixpence in your shoe;

For each person glue a penny to a piece of card stock with a blessing on the front.

May the Lord bless you and keep you; May the Lord make His face shine on you and be gracious to you; May the Lord turn his face toward you and give you peace. (Number 6:24-26)

May the Spirit of the Lord fill you with wisdom, knowledge, and might

On the back a reminder,

From Ask Moses

“The best “prayer” for success is giving charity. By placing and using a charity box in your home and office you are transforming your finances from a mundane self-serving need to a partnership with G-d. And God likes to be successful.” Rabbi Shlomo Chein

Something Old Something New Thanksgiving: recap

  • Something Old – Matriarch memories
  • Something New – try something new, everyone share 1 thing they tried last year and 1 thing they want to try this year
  • Something Borrowed – Patriarch memories
  • Something Blue – Blue item on the table to remind us of God’s care for us and our responsibility to care for others
  • Sixpence in your shoe – bless each person and reminder charity is partnering with God to care for others

© 2015 Elayne Cross